Love, Meaning, and the God Who Still Knocks

Truth Spoken Softly: A Birthday Reflection 

(For Life Coach for Ladies | Truth Mindset™ Series)

Some days on the calendar carry more weight than others.
December 13 is one of those days for me.

It is my mother’s birthday.

Birthdays invite reflection. They call us to pause, to remember, to honor a life that has shaped ours in ways both visible and unseen. They stir gratitude and complexity all at once—love, memory, history, longing, and hope quietly woven together.

My mother is a strong woman. A survivor. A thinker. A woman who has navigated life with resilience and resolve. She does not believe in God. She has never claimed faith. And yet, like every human heart, hers has carried questions, wounds, courage, and meaning that no philosophy can fully explain.

Today, I do not write to persuade.
I do not write to argue.
I do not write to convince.

I write to love.
And sometimes, love speaks truth softly.

The Quiet Power of a Seed

Jesus once said something profound and easily overlooked:

“The kingdom of heaven is like to a grain of mustard seed…”
— Matthew 13:31, KJV

A seed does not shout.
A seed does not argue.
A seed does not demand belief.

A seed simply rests in the soil… and waits.

Truth often works the same way.

Many Christian women feel burdened when they love someone who does not share their faith—a parent, a spouse, a child, a dear friend. There is a temptation to feel responsible for conversion, as though belief were something we could manufacture with the right words.

But Scripture teaches something gentler and far more powerful: God Himself draws the heart.

Our role is not force.
Our role is not fear.
Our role is faithfulness.

And sometimes, the most faithful thing we can do is speak truth with humility and leave the outcome in God’s hands.

What Truth Is—and What It Is Not

Truth is not loud.
Truth is not defensive.
Truth is not insecure.

Truth does not need to dominate a conversation to remain true.

Jesus stood silently before Pilate.
He did not debate.
He did not plead His case.
He did not perform miracles to prove Himself.

He simply was.

That alone tells us something important about how truth operates.

Truth does not rush.
Truth does not manipulate.
Truth does not coerce belief.

Truth invites.

A Reflection on Love Without Conditions

One of the most misunderstood ideas about faith is that God’s love depends on belief. Scripture says otherwise.

“But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.”
— Romans 5:8, KJV

Love came first.
Belief followed later—for many.

God’s love precedes agreement.
It precedes understanding.
It precedes surrender.

This matters deeply when we love someone who does not believe.

You can love fully without fixing.
You can honor deeply without convincing.
You can walk in truth without forcing it on another.

That is not compromise.
That is Christlikeness.

A Birthday Truth Declaration™

On this birthday, I hold a truth gently—not as a sermon, but as a statement of reality that stands whether it is accepted or not.

Truth Declaration™ – December 13

“Love is real, meaning is not accidental, and truth does not disappear simply because it is questioned.”

This declaration is not confrontational.
It is not religious language.
It is an invitation to wonder.

Because deep down, every human heart knows this:
Love feels too significant to be random.
Meaning feels too weighty to be accidental.
Truth feels too persistent to be imaginary.

The God Who Does Not Force the Door

One of the most beautiful and respectful images of God in all of Scripture is this:

“Behold, I stand at the door, and knock…”
— Revelation 3:20, KJV

Notice what He does not do.

He does not break the door down.
He does not shame the occupant.
He does not argue His way inside.

He knocks.

That single image dismantles so many false ideas about faith.

God honors autonomy.
God respects the human will.
God waits patiently, lovingly, persistently.

If you love someone who does not believe, let this bring you peace.

You are not called to be the door-opener.
You are not called to be the persuader.
You are not called to be the Holy Spirit.

You are called to love well.

When Belief Feels Impossible

Some people reject faith not because they hate God, but because they have been hurt, disappointed, disillusioned, or intellectually wounded along the way.

Others reject belief because belief feels unsafe.
Because hope once failed them.
Because trust was broken by people who claimed certainty.

Scripture accounts for this too:

“A bruised reed shall he not break, and smoking flax shall he not quench.”
— Isaiah 42:3, KJV

God is gentle with skepticism.
He is patient with resistance.
He is kind with questions.

Truth is not threatened by doubt.
Truth can sit quietly beside it.

What Christian Women Can Learn from This

This birthday reflection is not only personal—it is instructional for every Christian woman navigating relationships with unbelieving loved ones.

Here are three Truth Mindset™ reminders to carry forward:

1. You Are Responsible for Love, Not Results

Salvation belongs to the Lord.
Your role is faithfulness, not pressure.

2. Your Life Speaks Louder Than Your Explanations

Peace, steadiness, integrity, humility, and compassion are often the loudest testimonies.

3. Truth Can Be Present Without Being Announced

A seed planted quietly often grows deeper roots.

A Gentle Word to My Mother

If my mother were to read this—and she may or may not—I would want her to know this above all else:

You are loved without condition.
You are honored for your strength.
You are respected for your mind.
You are not a project.
You are not a problem to be solved.

And if there is more to this life than matter and chance—
if love truly has a source,
if meaning truly has an Author,
if truth truly exists beyond human agreement—

then that truth is patient enough to wait.

A Blessing for December 13

For my mother.
For every woman who loves someone who does not believe.
For every heart that holds faith quietly rather than loudly.

May love remain strong.
May truth remain steady.
May peace guard the heart.
May seeds rest safely in the soil.
May God do what only God can do.