Relying on others to shape who we are is the basis of codependence. It is, in effect, creating our feelings and behaviors around something external, rather than figuring out for ourselves what our feelings and behaviors should be and how they should look.

“Independence is happiness.” Susan B. Anthony

Autonomy, or true independence, is the ability to make decisions based on what you have learned about the world, your experiences, perceptions, and feelings, and how you interact with the world. Independence is empowering. Codependence is stifling.

Here are five practical ways to become less codependent and grow your valuable independence:

1.  Get to know who you are inside.

There are so many approaches to do this. One is to begin journaling your thoughts and feelings about your daily activities. Then ask yourself, “Is that the truth?” and “Is that how I feel about it?” Many times, upon reflection, we find that we have simply been parroting someone else’s feelings or tho...

As our usage of technology and the internet become more prevalent, women find ourselves as a society relying more and more on it and less and less on ourselves. But technology cannot solve all problems. It is not always available, nor do we usually want it to be. There are simply parts of the human mind, body, and soul irreplaceable - by technology or anything else!

The more technology runs our world, being independent becomes both more accessible and more complex. By learning to become more personally independent, you increase your chances of success in all areas of your life. Independent refers to all aspects of your life, including career, emotional, financial, personal faith, and beliefs. Self-reliance is a skill set that comes easier to some women than others, but it is a skill that everyone can benefit from all the time.

Here are six areas of your life that are sure to become stronger once you learn to stand on your own two feet:

1. Self-Esteem

Increased confidence ...

Focus: How Christian women can manage their family, work, and community roles while remaining aligned with their purpose.

This blog explores resilience as a critical aspect of personal development, emphasizing the role of the Truth Mindset in aligning thoughts with God’s promises for strength and endurance.

Balancing Life’s Demands with Grace and Purpose

"Commit thy works unto the Lord, and thy thoughts shall be established." (Proverbs 16:3)

Ziglar Quote: "When you do the things you need to do when you need to do them, the day will come when you can do the things you want to do when you want to do them."

In a world that values quick success and instant gratification, resilience can often feel like an outdated concept. But as Christians, resilience is essential for our personal development and spiritual growth. Resilience means having the ability to stand firm in your faith, even when life throws you challenges. It is the strength to keep going, rooted in the belief...

Can you stand on your own two feet? Are you the independent type, or do you rely on others for your answers, care, and decisions? If you are looking to improve your independence, you are in luck! It is never too late to increase your independence, and doing so will significantly increase your freedom to enjoy your life with no limits!

Indeed, we are often the person who holds us back the most. And if you think that is true - what areas are you holding yourself back from achieving more success? Is it your health, finances, business, or relationships? It is probably more than one of these. So here are four areas of your life where you can create more independence and begin thinking for yourself:

1.  Health

I think everyone can agree that you cannot make gains in any other areas of your life without your health. To be independently healthy, you need to exercise good habits in your life, such as eating quality foods, getting the proper nutrition, and staying active. These are all...

Recognizing your success boosts self-esteem. But it also helps you realize more about yourself and your strengths. Every woman excels in at least one area (often more than one). Acknowledging even small successes can help you realize where your best skills lie and do activities that empower you to take advantage of these skills.

When you do something well, you sense accomplishment, confidence, and pride surge in you because you could achieve something that helped yourself or others. In many cases, you were the best individual for the task and were more skilled to achieve it than others. So, people look to you to complete the job and accomplish the feat so quickly and easily. 

During the times you are having difficulty or are struggling with challenges, it is essential to look back to your successes and realize that you can do great things and succeed at what you are currently doing. Now and again, life throws us a curveball. This makes us uncomfortable and causes us to struggle...

Focus: The importance of mindset transformation through the renewing of the mind to combat negativity.

Renewing Your Mind for a Positive Outlook

"And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God." (Romans 12:2)

In today's fast-paced society, personal development is often associated with career advancement, goal-setting, and self-improvement. However, true growth stems from a deeper place—a growth mindset rooted in Christ. When we allow God to direct our personal development, we experience transformation that goes beyond worldly achievements. With God’s truth as our foundation, we are empowered to face challenges, embrace change, and trust that every obstacle serves a higher purpose in our journey.

Zig Ziglar said, "Positive thinking will let you do everything better than negative thinking will."

A Biblical Foundation for Growth

True personal devel...

Focus: How to maintain and strengthen faith amidst social, political, and personal uncertainties in 2021.

Cultivating a Resilient Faith in Challenging Times

In a world filled with distractions, developing self-discipline is one of the most powerful tools that Christian women can use to take control of their personal development and faith. The Word of God teaches us the importance of discipline in both spiritual and personal aspects of life. It requires a deep commitment to growth, trust in God’s guidance, and the ability to focus on what truly matters. Let us explore how self-discipline, grounded in biblical principles, is the foundation for success and fulfillment in all areas of life.

"He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls." – Proverbs 25:28 (KJV)

Truth Mindset: Aligning Your Thoughts with God's Truth

At the core of self-discipline is the ability to control not only our actions but also our thoughts. The Truth Mi...

As we start to wind down on the year 2020, let's begin to plan for 2021. The new year holds promise for much growth. Start to plan goals so that you will be successful.

“Success means having the courage, the determination, and the will to become the person you believe you were meant to be.” George Sheehan

The definition of "successful" is different for every woman. Essentially, it is about who you are and who you are becoming. Success involves living up to your potential and achieving your dreams. Your success is what will bring you a life of contentment, pride, and enthusiasm in your accomplishments.

Too often than not, we make lists of goals we want to achieve, but the list remains on the nightstand or kitchen table. The words do not move from the page, and success seems to elude us. Regardless of what success means to you, there are strategies for making it all happen and come true for you. Attaining success is not as complicated as you might think. And, it is not only m...

You may believe that hobbies are not vital. After all, they will take time away from work and family. However, personal pursuits serve many essential purposes, including helping you stay emotionally and mentally healthy.

If you have been avoiding spending time doing activities you like to do. Maybe it is time to recommit to a little "me time" and take up your preferred pastimes again.

1. Hobbies offer an opportunity to release your stress and recharge your batteries. The medical community understands that stress can be detrimental. Crafts and other personal endeavors help you let go of stress as you focus on the things you enjoy.

• If you are feeling anxiety or frustration, a hobby is a healthy outlet for your feelings.
• Immersing yourself in your favorite pastime frees you from bothersome thoughts.

2. Discover your creative side through practicing a hobby. Do you usually take time out of your busy day to let your creative juices flow? Hobbies fulfill this significant role,
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What are the first thoughts crossing your mind when that alarm clock goes off first thing in the morning? Do you instantly hit that snooze button? Do you try to think of any possible way to keep yourself in your comfy warm bed? Do you just wonder how so many women are getting up early and getting things done? Life Coach for Ladies is here to help!

Many morning routines you find online take hours to complete—a physical activity for thirty minutes, multiple Morning Pages, or thirty minutes of meditating on God's word. Most women cannot come up with that kind of spare time in the morning.

But, in no more than ten minutes, you can establish a morning practice that will leave you in the proper mindset to conquer the day. Read below to discover some time-saving habits you can integrate into each morning.

Minute 1 – Drink Water

Start storing a bottle of water next to your bed. Prior to you even getting out of bed, drink the water. Your body is dehydrated following a long night of...